Feeling Overwhelmed?
You spend all of your time on Grandma and our family isn’t a priority for you anymore” Ouch!
It seems like a terrible thing to say and an awful thing to hear, right?
What if it’s not? How is it possible to be in this conversation with your husband/daughter/son and not feel terrible?
Here’s how. Other people’s opinions are just that, other people’s opinions. They’re not right and they’re not wrong; they just are.
All that matters is what you make of it. In this case, I asked my client what she’s making it mean that her daughter said this to her. Is it true?
“No, of course it’s not true but I just can’t seem to be enough to everyone who is important in my world. And my mom needs me more right now”.
And therein lies the challenge and where our work is. Truly believing that we are enough comes from within. We have to know that we are doing enough. If we depend on other people’s opinions for approval of what we’re doing then we’re always going to come up short somewhere.
We can always do more and we can always do less. Know what is right for you to do in every situation, do it and believe that it is enough.
Holding on to the thought that “I should be doing more”, provides no benefit to you or the people you love.
In fact, it keeps you stuck in overwhelm. Clients tell me every day that they “feel so overwhelmed” and they believe it’s just a fact.
I work with them to challenge the thoughts that they’re having about the situation they’re in. Stepping back to look at what we’re thinking in the moment opens up the opportunity for clarity on how the thoughts that we’re holding on to are the biggest factor keeping us in overwhelm. Together we find ways to approach their unique situations that get them to a point of doing enough. This is important as you navigate partnering in the care of an aging relative. How will you choose to approach it? By believing that you’re never going to be enough or choosing to believe every day that you know and do exactly what you are supposed to do?
You choose.
If you’d like help sorting out what is enough in the care and keeping of your aging relative, I’d love to help.
Schedule a discovery call with me today